Which one should I choose: my beloved or myself?

It is a Friday afternoon. A couple of minutes ago, one of your friends has called to invite you for a game night, you would love to join. On the other hand, it has been one month that you have been busy writing a paper and after submitting it, you feel like having a peaceful night with your partner. This is a dilemma for you. You used to hang out with your friends before being in a serious relationship. Board games have been your hobby for more than 10 years. Whenever you were stressed-out, joining friends, and playing games have helped you to relax. It is hard to decide.
Many of us may have experienced the same situation. Modern life is overwhelmed with hundreds of different tasks. Those who have married or are in a serious relationship have much more time management problems. Sometimes, we can just choose one option between spending time on our hobbies and being together with our beloved. Which one should we choose?
Some people simply decide based on their own preferences. They keep their habits, and spend their free time on their personal interests. It sounds that stepping into a serious relationship has not affected their lives that much. They claim that they have been living this way for many years; this life style is a part of their character, and even if they want, it is not easy to change. On the other hand, some argue that they long to spend time on their relationship, but they encounter a feeling of resistance from their partners.
I find some flaws in both cases mentioned above. If we do not have enough time to care about another person- one whom we claim to love- why do we engage someone else in our lives? Whenever we admit being with someone, we accept that we are stepping into a new stage of our lives-a new life style. If we find ourselves not flexible enough, why do we accept that? Do not we, as human beings, have the possibility to select?
Additionally, a relationship is a two-way road. We cannot stay in a relationship just because of being in one! Is it just physical needs that keep us going? Is it just a paper claiming our marriage or an oral agreement between our partners and us? What do we want out of the relationship? People are different in life style and thinking; it is not always easy to find the better half. But how long can a relationship survive with one-sided engagement?
I strongly believe that by starting a relationship, we not only should care about ourselves but also about our partners. It is impossible to expect love from a relationship on that we do not spend enough time. Just like a flower that needs to be watered, a relationship requires real moments. It is not enough just to be together, like being at a party or playing a game with friends. What I mean is real moments between our partner and us, moments that open the door to a meaningful deep conversation. Far away from everyday challenges in our lives, we should have the opportunity to find each other’s soul, deep inside. Otherwise, after several years, we would find ourselves in a relationship empty of meaning. Our passion is gone and we wonder why.

(This text has been submitted as a homework for Argumentation text type in the Academic Writing course)